How do you reconcile the fact of what you teach your children and how they follow their own path?
I guess, to clarify, I feel I have taught my children certain standards and expectations. However, with them using their own agency, they fall away from those standards. It is hard to see and hard to understand sometimes.
I feel, in many ways, the worldly junk is winning the battle. How to you combat the desires of the world against the eternal truths that will actually bring happiness?
How to you justify your parenting in the face of children going an completely different way than they have been taught?
I have heard some of the things that my children are doing outside of our home. I am shocked by it. I don’t like it and they have been talked to about it. But, they are still doing it. Why? because they want to fit in and be cool.
I get it. I really do. I understand their desire to fit in. However, I want them to know that they are better than just being the average kiddo. They can be different and find joy, friends, and a stability in knowing who they are.
I hope this is making sense to you. It makes sense to me. 🙂
I am afraid for my children. They are good people. Hopefully they know how much we care about them. Hopefully, they will recognize that yes we made mistakes. Yes, we wish we had chosen differently but in all of it we have loved them with a fierceness of our souls.
The fact is, I am worried about how our children are choosing a path that is so different from what I envisioned for them.
Now…(I am able to process as I write) I am feeling some of the thoughts I believe the Savior has for me.
He is probably thinking, “Why can’t she just see how much easier it would be if she followed this path?”
It is tricky being a parent. There is a very fine line between losing your child and the relationship you have and being right! It is okay to not always be right. It is okay to allow your children to make their choices and to live with their consequences.
It is not a reflection on you. It is a reflection on them! They are the ones that you are allowing to make choices. Just like a loving Heavenly Father allows us to make choices. We are blessed to be able to allow our children the same agency and accountability. Sometimes, we also have to sit on the sideline to encourage, support and let them know we will be there for them …ALWAYS. Just like Heavenly Father does for us.
It stinks being a parent sometimes…it also brings me the greatest joy possible.
Again the hard part is ALLOWING the choice and keeping it straight in your head that it is NOT A DIRECT REFLECTION ON YOU.
Hopefully, your friends and family remember that too.
Know that you are in good company…you are not alone….you are doing the best you can at that moment.