is the name of an article I was reading today. It was written by Rachel Hixon from Arizona.
She was talking about how her attitude towards mothering and having to constantly clean up messes she didn’t make. I often do the same thing. I mutter and sigh as I have to clean up dozens of messes every day that I didn’t create.
It often gets very overwhelming with 19 people still living in our home. Some days it doesn’t matter where I turn there are messes, messes and MORE messes. Right now, as I sit at my computer and look around, I see oatmeal spilled on the stove, a sink full of dishes, otter pop wrappers haphazardly displayed on the floor, powdered sugar on the dining room floor a dough hook in the living room and many more messes.
It gets even harder for me when my five oldest boys (still at home) sleep the day away and then complain because they have to do a chore or two. They grumble and complain because they “always” have to do a ton of work.
As I read this article, I realized how much my perspective needs to change. Her husband said, “It’s a mothers sacrifice. It’s what mother’s do. They spend their lives cleaning up messes that they had no hand in making-just like the Savior did.”
The Savior never needed praise or acknowledgement. He went about and did the work that needed to be done. I shouldn’t keep a list of what I am doing compared to what my teens are doing or NOT doing. I pray the Savior isn’t keeping a list of all He has done to my minuscule efforts. I want to be a more Christlike mother.
Of course, then I left my computer and yelled at my kids because they still weren’t doing what I asked of them. Change is a LONG process.
However, I am determined to change. I still think my children should work and participate in family activities. John has coined the phrase “we should invite, not fight.”
I am going to strive to do my best in changing the way I parent. That is the best I can do. This is obviously a change that won’t happen overnight but it is one I am willing to persevere at.
What are some of your struggles in regards to balancing your work load to your teens?